My world view in how I practice child and family counselling comes from
my belief that our children grow and develop to healthy human beings
through being nurtured with clear, firm and loving boundaries.
My child and family counselling practices are guided by Attachment theory,
Family Systems theory, and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I describe
these in more detail below.
Parent Coaching is my way of helping you, as a parent, to be empowered
to make a difference in your parenting. The benefits of parent
- support in dealing with your own stressors in a confidential environment
- learning new ways to communicate with your child
- acquire new parenting skills and strategies
Attachment theory focuses on the bond that you develop with
your child and consequently, the bond your child forms with you. It plays
a key role in developing and enhancing your relationship with your
child. The level of attachment you have strengthens affection
in your family.
It is vital in your relationship with your child that you provide
your child unconditional love. This in turn helps your child develop
resiliency to cope with life’s stressors such as:
- peer pressure
- changes to their routine
- the ability to cope with life situations as they occur
Attachment theory looks to foster a healthy parent-child interaction
that allows you to understand your child’s needs and potential
for positive emotional development. For example, your child
or teen will be able to use a full range of emotional responses rather
than just anger or pushing their feelings aside.
When you as the parent or caregiver can understand the meaning in your
child or youth’s behavior, and then address his/her needs (such
as need for attention, privacy, independence or closeness), your relationship
strengthens and tensions decrease. If you and your child form
a secure attachment, it will reduce the risk for the development of emotional
difficulties later in life.
As a parent educator and counsellor trained in helping parents understand
their child’s needs, parents tell me they have formed a stronger
relationship with their child, feel calmer when handling their
child’s anger, and better understand what their child is
communicating. In short, they felt more confident and their child
felt understood and became more compliant and less irritable.
Christine's insightful and honest comments have been very helpful for me in making conscious decisions in my career and relationships. Her techniques and exercises have enabled me to get to the root of the issue. I would gladly recommend Christine's counselling services to friends and family!
- I. B, career woman, 32 years.
I work from a family systems approach that looks at all the
the family and not just at the child who is struggling. Family
systems theory places emphasis on the patterns of interaction amongst
members of your family and how members influence each others behavior.
Family systems theory understands that all behavior has meaning. How
one copes or reacts to life events often is explained by old patterns
that have been maintained, but are not effective for the current situation.
I use talk therapy and techniques (establishing family roles, family
meetings and teen mediation) to help you and your children break old
patterns of behavior and adopt healthier ways of coping.
I work at strengthening your relationship with your child while taking
into account the needs of the entire family. As a result, you will
feel calmer in dealing with your child’s anger or untimely requests.
Your family will also gain a healthy model for problem solving.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) addresses the relationship
between your thoughts and how you feel about yourself and the world.
CBT is widely used to treat children and adults who worry too much
or feel too sad. I use the techniques from CBT to help you and your child
find the link between your
negative thoughts, feelings and behaviours so that you can begin to control
and maintain a positive outlook. This is done by working with you
and your child’s negative belief about him/her in a supportive
Some cognitive behavioural techniques include:
- learning how to deep breath and to relax muscles which makes it easier
to solve problems
- stop thoughts of worry or panic by examining you and your child’s
world view and how it is working against what you want to have happen
in your life
- rehearsing (acting out) positive situations you or your child have
- boost your child’s self-esteem using journal writing, self-rating
scales and personal rewards
My experience with Christine has been very rewarding. She is both insightful and compassionate. I appreciate Christine’s ability to help me get to the crux of a problem. My anxiety has decreased significantly since I began working with Christine.
- J.R. business woman, 51 years.
Parent Coaching allows me to support you as a parent when you
may be feeling overwhelmed, frustrated or at your wit’s end in
dealing with your strong willed or highly sensitive child.
Parent Coaching is:
- non-judgmental - you can express concerns regarding parenting your
- informative -an opportunity for you to learn new parenting skills
- partnership-a way to provide me with your feedback on newly learned
- focused - discussing you and your child’s progress and family
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provides counselling services to children, parents, and
in Vancouver, North Vancouver, and West Vancouver.