Christine Kutzner M.Ed., RCC - Counselling Services

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Volume 25, August 2010

I hope you all have really enjoyed this gorgeous Vancouver summer!  This summer was definitely one of my most memorable as we actualized our family’s “trip of a lifetime” to Tanzania Africa for a wonderful safari.  This trip had multiple layers of impact: family closeness, experiencing a different culture, awe struck by the amazing wild life and our children becoming travel savvy.  I always knew that there is more than one way to become educated, and when I experienced my children’s excitement and commentary on our pictures to friends, I am now 100% sure that travel is a great way to learn so much about yourself and others.

I have an announcement about a parenting workshop series that is being offered in West Vancouver:  Building Strong and Healthy Children facilitated by Chasidy Karpiuk and Nicole Maier. If interested please check out www.chasidykarpiuk.com and look under presentations.

I will presenting two workshops in October: Parenting and Discipline to the Grand Boulevard Parent Participation Preschool( Oct. 6th) and Intentional Parenting West Van Community Centre,(Oct. 21st). 

This newsletter will highlight some great tip/reminders for parents of kids returning to school.

Helping Your Child Get Back to Studying!

Ruth Peters from the Sylvan learning centers wrote an article a long time ago about how parents can set up a study system at home. These would include:

  1. Give your child/youth the structure they need to get the job done (quiet room, good lighting, and an expectation that the child is to get their homework done).
  2. Have your child study in the room where you are.  Kids need supervision and someone to check on their progress.
  3. Do not rely on report cards for information.  Keep in contact with your teacher, especially regarding bigger projects and their due date.
  4. Don’t assume that grades will motivate your child.  Develop long and short-term rewards such as money, outings, or special privileges.
  5. Remember your child’s attention span.  Thirty minutes on a task with a ten-minute break.

For high school students, larger assignments can be troublesome if your youth is a procrastinator. Procrastination can come in many forms such as perfectionism, fear of failure, confusion about what is expected, poor motivation, or difficulty staying focused.  Students who procrastinate need to find a way to motivate themselves away from negative thinking, as well as learn and implement organizational skills.  Here are some ideas to help move past the procrastination:

  1. Positive thinking “No body’s perfect” “Getting started will make me feel better.”
  2. Break task down into manageable parts.
  3. Commit to completing a task once you start it.
  4. Reward yourself when you finish one task.
  5. Work on a task as part of a study group.
  6. Eliminate distractions (shut off cell phone, MSN and TV).
  7. Work on the hardest task first, it will relieve your stress and offer you some free time.

Parents and students need to find a study skill that works best for them.  Ask teachers for their secret, take courses or browse on the web for study skill ideas.  Then practice using one skill to see if it will help you get the job done.  What all students need to learn is that without a plan of how to go about your work, your work won’t get done.

Christine Kutzner Counselling Services 604-339-5774

Christine Kutzner, M.Ed. is a Registered Clinical Counsellor providing services to children, parents and families in North and West Vancouver. To inquire, contact Christine.

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