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  This blog is personal.  It reinforces to me how patterns unconsciously get repeated in families, and if I hadn’t found a letter, then putting this to rest may have taken more effort. When I was 21, I fell in love with my first boyfriend.  I was having a great time until my mother disapproved of him.  It wasn't clear to me what was so upsetting, except that my Read more

  Each child desires to be cared and loved by their mother.  The child’s sense of worth comes from the bond that is nurtured by the parent.  When we feel we matter, this allows us to attract other good people and form lasting relationships. A person with a narcissistic personality believes they are right.  They are vindictive by nature.  Recently, I worked with Read more

  I recently listened to an interview with Jayson Gaddis, who is a relationship coach, from the Conscious Life – Healing Toxic Relationships Super Conference Nov. 2023.  Jayson’s approach to coaching couples is to keep things simple.  Relationship dynamics are complicated enough, so he tries to avoid too much theory. My top take-aways: The key Read more

  I recently interviewed a client about her concern with her current partner and how he is so devoted to his mother.  My client Margaret was asking for support in how to help keep her boundaries, and what can she do to help her partner Mark maintain his boundaries, now that his 90-year-old mother has moved to Vancouver (names and certain details changed to Read more

  In my last blog, I wrote about people pleasers and how hard it is for them to set personal boundaries.  What are boundaries?  Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships.  A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and Read more