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  Are you a person who puts everyone else first and do not put your needs first?  In my counselling practice I see many people who are people pleasers.  This trait is often created at a young age when a child doesn’t get enough of their emotional needs met by a caretaker.  Children are dependent and need to be connected to an adult for survival.  If the parent Read more

  Last month I wrote about a webinar I enjoyed from Dr. Diane Poole Heller.  She is an expert in working with trauma and attachment styles.  You can read the previous blog post to review the attachment styles. Here are the attachment terms: Children                                              Adults Secure                                                 Read more

I was recently listening to a Masterclass called Restoring Relational Resilience by Dr. Diane Poole Heller, who is a psychologist working out of Colorado. Her talk was describing the four attachment styles and how to recognize them in adulthood.  Looking at attachment styles informs me what a client did or did not get in their early formative years that dictates their Read more

Where do you feel anxiety and depression?  In your mind?  This may sound like an odd question, but the truth is our body holds all our experiences and feelings.  Our body is our messenger.  It informs how we are doing.  There are many studies citing the mind/body connection for healing, especially for those who have experienced a trauma (Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Read more

My parents grew up in Germany and had many wonderful holiday rituals that they brought with them when they emigrated to Canada, for example, wreath making to celebrate Advent, baking stollen, German Christmas carols, and going to church on Christmas Eve.  Over the years, they adopted new ones too, like cooking a turkey, and decorating the tree a few weeks before Read more